Now if multiple shards are explicitly requested, and the listener's
protocol doesn't support SO_REUSEPORT, sharding is disabled, which will
result in the socket being automatically duped if needed. A warning is
emitted when this happens. If "shards by-group" or "shards by-thread"
are used, these will automatically be turned down to 1 since we want
this to be possible easily using -dR on the command line without having
to djust the config. For "by-thread", a diag warning will be emitted to
help troubleshoot possible performance issues.
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