These functions induce a lot of ifs everywhere because they consider two
different cases, one which is where the connection exists and has a file
descriptor, and the other one which is the default case where at most an
applet has to be notified.
Let's have them in si_ops and automatically decide which one to use.
The connection shutdown sequence has been slightly simplified, and we
now clear the flags at the end.
Also we remove SHUTR_NOW after a shutw with nolinger, as it's cleaner
not to keep it.
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