tune.rcvbuf.client and tune.rcvbuf.server are not suitable for shared
dgram sockets because they're per connection so their units are not the
same. However, QUIC's listener and log servers are not connected and
take per-thread or per-process traffic where a socket log buffer might
be too small, causing undesirable packet losses and retransmits in the
case of QUIC. This essentially manifests in listener mode with new
connections taking a lot of time to set up under heavy traffic due to
the small queues causing delays. Let's add a few new settings allowing
to set these shared socket sizes on the frontend and backend side (which
reminds that these are per-front/back and not per client/server hence
not per connection).
The set of files proto_udp.{c,h} were misleadingly named, as they do not
provide anything related to the UDP protocol but to datagram handling
instead, since currently all UDP processing is hard-coded where it's used
(dns, logs). They are to UDP what connection.{c,h} are to proto_tcp. This
was causing confusion about how to insert UDP socket management code,
so let's rename them right now to dgram.{c,h} which more accurately
matches what's inside since every function and type is already prefixed
with "dgram_".
